Delving into the sex lives of Ama2000-- plus video

Michael Mashiri

“Ama2000” is a word that has become a synonym for many adjectives describing people born in the year 2000 and after as belonging to a totally foreign culture compared to the older generations.

But perhaps the most outstanding perception about those who belong in the age group is their attitude to sex. We all recall the outbreak of videos showing kids in uniform getting up to things that must have given a few parents lifetime health conditions.

Zim Now spoke to a few Ama2000 to try and understand their sex lives through their own eyes.

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Most of the young people said that the law that makes it illegal for an adult to have sex with anyone below the age of 18 is not well thought out as it deprives them of their right to do what they like with their bodies.

Most indicated that they started having sex at 12 or 13 years with their age mates so they do not believe they were victims by any definition. A number also said that if it was their choice to have sex with an older person, then they don’t see why some random adult would think it is their business.

For this article Zim Now only spoke to people 18 and older who were aware that they were being interviewed for publication.

Her story

Young women feel that dating older men is the only option for getting the lives that they want which their parents cannot afford.

"There is no money out there. The "blessers" sponsor us, but we have our boyfriends who will be the main guys,” says Tisha.

Others agreed that a girl has so many needs and she cannot sit in virtual poverty just because her parents cannot afford the good things in life. “You want a phone. You need clothes, hair, make-up, accessories and all that. Our parents might not have the money but you can have it all if you play your game right. You just need to date the right kind of man who can afford and is willing to spend it on you,” said Sherril.

But the broke young guys offer what the older richer men cannot, according to Tisha:

"The one we will be calling the main boyfriend will be there to satisfy us sexually. Some "blessers" are not doing it well," she said.

She said the older men tend to be poorly equipped and not the best of actors in bed.

"We have seen many sizes, the "blessers" have nothing. The youths in the streets are a package," she said.

Sherril said that the young men are also a sort of security net in several ways. “Like the older men are married. So you can’t really do a relationship with them. But the guys your own age, you can talk about stuff, do things, experiment, and yeah, maybe, in future get married or something. So yeah, that’s where it’s real,” she said.

Sherril said young men are more open to experiences like orgies while the older men tend to be possessive leading the girls to pretend faithfulness.

Sex with blessers is very transactional and the blessers’ financial power means that the young woman is willing to comply with whatever the blesser wants.

"If someone offers you a lot of money and says they do not want to use a condom, you just have unprotected sex with them. That’s a risk you will end up taking," Tisha said.

“You just do whatever he wants and pretend that you are enjoying it. ‘Cause when you have sex with a blesser, it’s just for the money,” says Sherril.

Tisha says a girl needs multiple blessers and multiple younger man to ensure that she does not starve, financially or sexually.

His side

"If l date one girl, l get sick. I want to have sex at least two or three times per week,” says Tariroyashe, 19.

That is his explanation for having several girls on call at the same time.

"Continuously asking one girl to come over can be a problem, so l must have many girls because one girl cannot do that.”

Kundai, 20, says he has different girls because they are not the same when it comes to sex. “Some of them just lie there as if you are raping them. But others have skills that will surprise you. It does not matter about the age. You can get a 16-year old who knows what she is doing and a 24-year old who is clueless.”

He declined to go into detail of what he considers supreme sexual prowess except to say that “a woman must know how to use her mouth and waist”.

Other young men said that they prefer several partners because they know the girls are always cheating.

Having several partners is also perceived as a cushion against heartbreak, going through a dry spell and to help one establish his street cred as a man with a plan.

From the male perspective, several sexual partners are also a form of security.

"The other reason why we do this is that the girls themselves can just decide they are no longer interested in having a relationship with you. So having many of them, it’s a cover, if this one breaks up with you, the other five will be left and while I look for a replacement" he said.

Some of the young men said they do not hide the fact that they have several sexual partners from any of the girls, except when there is a main “chick”.

A few also indicated that the relationships tend to be within the same social circles so a guy might be having sex with a number of his girl’s friends, especially the best friend.

And the flip side is also true. A young woman is likely to cheat with the guys that her main partners hangs out with. A case of familiarity and opportunity feeding desire.

But a number of the young men said they are willing to go for monogamy if they get a steady girl that they can trust who is willing to meet their sexual needs.

"If my girlfriend gives me sex regularly it might minimise the rate at which l ask out other girls. The problem is if l ask my girlfriend to come home she starts acting up," Tariroyashe said.

An adult’s view

Most adults cannot relate to what they view as the sexual licentiousness of the younger generations.

They feel that the young people have lost their moral compass and are not following traditional mores or Christian teachings, so have become virtual animals giving in to their baser nature without limits.

A lady who identified herself as Mai Tinashe, 39 says social media has become the root of all evil, shaping the way young girls and boys think and behave.

She said free access to pornography has also driven the young people into believing that they should have sex on demand all the time.

"Peer pressure is also causing these children to behave in the way they are now doing.”

She said schools must step in to teach about risky sexual behaviour.

"They must be taught at school the effects of dating many people. These days there are various diseases, if you just get into a relationship and do things haphazardly, you will contract many sicknesses.

But she believes that the primary responsibility lies with parents who must step and stop expecting social media to raise their children for them:

"As parents we must encourage relationships when our children have something they do in life not just getting into a relationship.

"We also have a role of teaching them where they come from and where they are going," she said.